The Book of the Courtier

Book 3 begins with Castiglione remarking: “how greatly superior was Urbino to all other courts of Italy” (207). The party returns to the subject of the ideal courtly lady. The Duchess wishes to see her “well adorned” and the conversation turns to heraldry. While there are some who would rather return to the topic of the courtier, Niccolo Frigio, a German diplomat and friend to both Castiglione and Bembo, contends that women “adorn” courts and “inspire” courtiers (210). With this, the Magnifico assumes his task from the preceding night. The ideal courtly lady should in no way resemble a man, but like the male courtier, she should be of noble birth, elegant, and well-mannered. Her looks and virtue are more important than for a man. She should be a good mother and charming in conversation, avoiding gossip. Chaste and virtuous women are valued more highly. In her conversation she should be attentive to status and tone, and “ought to be on her guard lest she arouse distaste” (213). 

Gaspare interjects to claim that the Magnifico has been too general. Women should not, the Magnifico continues, engage in sports, and if they play music or dance, they should